This Sunday, November 20, 2022, is Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day when we honor the memory of transgender people whose lives were taken by acts of anti-transgender violence. In commemoration of this day, Rev. Irene Monroe, contributing writer to Boston Spirit magazine, offers words of reflection:
I’ll never forget Rita Hester.
In the pantheon of slain Americans who have further civil rights gains of a marginalized group, Rita Hester, an African American transgender woman, is among them. There had been several transgender murders prior to Rita’s — Chanelle Pickett in Watertown in 1995 and Monique Thomas in Dorchester in September 1998. Rita lived large and loved big, but she could never have imagined her life and her death would mean so much to so many.
On November 28, 1998, Rita was found dead in her first-floor apartment with twenty stab wounds to her chest, just two days before her 35th birthday. Hester’s murder kicked off the “Remembering Our Dead” web project that became the catalyst for the annual International Transgender Day of Remembrance on November 20. Her murder occurred six weeks after Matthew Shepard’s in Laramie, Wyoming, which became an internationally known homophobic hate crime; in 2009, President Barack Obama signed into law The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd Hate Crimes Prevention Act.
In 2022, Rita’s murder is still an unsolved cold case like most transgender murders. Her murder occurred in an era when the “trans panic defense” — a defendant melodramatically pleads temporary insanity for killing — was a legal strategy. Friends of Rita told NBC.com their suspicion about her murder. “A man (or men) who couldn’t face his attraction to a trans woman came home with Hester and killed her in a fit of shame.”
I’ll never forget Rita’s vigil because the words of Rita’s mother, Kathleen Hester, haunt me to this day. When Rita’s mother came up to the microphone during the Speak Out portion of the vigil at the Model Cafe, where Rita was known, she brought most of us to tears, myself included. “I would have gladly died for you, Rita. I would have taken the stabs and told you to run. I loved you!” After her remarks, Rita’s mother collapsed in a grief-induced faint. When the Speak-Out portion ended, the crowd moved outside with lit candles and gathered behind Rita¹s family. As the vigil processed from the Model Cafe to 21 Park Vale Avenue, where Rita lived and died, Rita’s mother again brought me to tears as she and her surviving children kneeled in front of the doorway of Rita’s apartment building and recited “The Lord’s Prayer.” Many of us joined in unison.
According to the Human Rights Campaign, this year, at least 32 transgender Black and LatinX sisters have been fatally shot or killed.
At this year’s Association of Black Harvard Women’s Annual Vigil for Black Trans Lives, photos and the reading of names of departed Black Trans individuals were part of the liturgy in Holden Chapel on Harvard’s campus. Chastity Boswick, executive director of the Transgender Emergency Fund of Massachusetts, was the keynote speaker. Boswick told the audience “she hopes next year she’ll not be among the photos and names.” It’s an ongoing concern Boswick expresses publicly every chance she can. “What happened to Hester could happen to any of us. That’s her daily battle,” she told WBUR in 2020.
And that concern I heard during the “Trans Catholic Voices” breakout season at the DignityUSA conference in Boston in 2017. I listened to the vulnerability of an African American trans woman who pointed out that Pope Francis’s statements about trans people deny them basic human dignity and perpetuate violence against them. In her closing remarks, the African American trans sister asked for help from advocates and allies in the room, bringing me to tears. She said, “Trans lives are real lives. Trans deaths are real deaths. God works through other people. Maybe you can be those other people.”
As we celebrate Trans Day of Remembrance, we are those other people honoring Rita Hester and others.
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